We’re happy people until we work hard to achieve a goal. We then tell ourselves that once we reach this very goal, we will be happy, right?
Happiness isn’t about externalizing how you should be feeling. It’s about remembering what makes you happy so that you don’t have to find materialistic means to justify your happiness. One of the greatest intrinsic and positive psychology authors of our time- Shawn Achor, posits that our lives run on the fulcrum and lever system; the same Archimedes’ principle that your parents paid top money to the school for you to learn how to score a 100% on your physics exam- you didn’t. Thankfully, what I’m about to tell you has nothing to do with physics.
It’s really quite simple if you’re able to think three quantum leaps at a time (JK don’t listen to me). Your mind runs a dictatorship inside your head, that controls the body from doing/feeling/ expressing whatever it does as it sifts through the days of your existence. Positive thinking can improve your utilization of time. If taught how to work correctly, a meeting or time with friends as a “waste” where you’re not getting anything out of it, soon turns into an opportunity. Likewise, putting a positive spin on deadlines and drudgery can make it far more palatable.
Life’s short- so let’s head to the fundamentals.
HOW DOES IT WORK?
The fulcrum is your capacity to change or adapt to any situation, circumstance or instance that befalls before you. The lever is the belief you hold as a collective self (mind, body and spirit) that you can change.
By thinking that you can’t, or that you feel pessimistically about an event, a situation or simply yourself, you move the lever closer to the left. Thus, shorting your ability to change. This isn’t going to take you very far.
However, simply believing we can bring about positive change in our lives increases motivation and job performance. Studies show that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy. One example was given of a group of Asian women taking a math test. The first time they were told to focus on their being women (and supposedly worse at math), which resulted in lower scores. The second time they were told to focus on being Asian (and supposedly better at math), and the scores improved dramatically.
If you focus on believing that you can in fact rise to an occasion that seems challenging, well, you can do it. Simply move the fulcrum to the right, giving your ability to change the space that it needs to change. In fact, it has also been scientifically proven that it’s important to believe you can improve your abilities. Individuals with a “growth mindset” consistently outperform those with a “fixed mindset”.
Remember, if you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right either way.
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